If you had the opportunity to fulfill your life goal, your dream career…?
Posted by admin on Dec 15, 2009
…to complete school and earn income in six figures…and the experience of a new country (safe first world country) would be excellent for your children, you are going to be married and have more kids with the new partner, siblings for your current children and the stepfather is wondeful with your children and they have an enormous bond…
and the biological father sees the kids four days a month, two weeks in the summer time and alternate xmas days and father’s day, and has otherwise no involvemnet with the children, no phone calls, doesnt stay involved in school or health care unless you do the work for him, he exercises no responsibility but wants maximum rights and your kids have no bond with him, dont even talk about him when he’s gone, dont want to call him on the phone, dont want to visit, your son says he’s mean to him, would you apply for mobility to fulfill that dream and move to a new country away from your ex?
im not painting anything any way, these are facts, this is how much he sees them, this is what the kids say, this is the opportunity, i put nothing about personal emotion in there, facts only, the days he sees them, the involvement he has (actually doesnt), and thats truth, nothing to justify one way or another…
as for the other parts, its not a strange country to us, the kids absolutely love the country, have already been immersed in the culture as that is where their stepfather is from, have bonds with their stepfamily over there, i already have a personal support system of friends and family, plus with a six figure income I can fly home and fly the kids back to see thier bio dad three times a year minimum and see my family at the same time
You’re presenting a story in which one course of action is ALL good and the other choice is ALL bad. People do that to justify their choices to themselves and others. I’m not judging you (we all do it at some time or other), I am just trying to draw your awareness to it so you can look at the situation more objectively and make the best choice possible for yourself and your children without twisting facts to be the evidence you wish them to be.
Nobody can tell you what to do – either choice will impact your life for many years to come. This is why it is so important for you to see the pluses and minuses of both choices before you commit.
I will suggest listing the positives and negatives for each choice but challenge yourself – when the positives of one choice are a page long and not a single downside, ask yourself what you are pretending not to know, not to see. I promise even the best choices have a cost/downside/negative consequence.
For example, have you considered what would happen if you move to a strange country and things don’t work out with the new partner? What kind of social and support network will you have? How easy or difficult will it be for your children to adjust?
On the flip side, are you undervaluing your children’s relationship with their biological father? How will it affect them in the long term if you make choices that prevent this relationship from growing, deepening and becoming more fulfilling?
I just want you to realize that nothing is black and white and the more we try to make it seem that it is, the more we deceive ourselves. Of course you will make the best choice possible but do it with full awareness, be objective, be informed, anticipate both the challenges and the rewards so you won’t be disappointed because your expectations were unrealistic.
Paste your code here!Am I going 2 go crazy?
Posted by admin on Dec 3, 2009
OK I am a single father with a 3 year old son and I have 50/50 split custody. I was only married for a year and a half. I admit I am old fashion at the age of 30 but my ex knew this for the 4 years we dated. My ex is taking me to court for 150.00 child tax credit ( even though in our divorce decree it states we alternate claiming our son, me odd years and her even years). A 80.00 daycare dispuite because on my week of paying daycare our provider took 1/2 the week off and I only had to make a partial payment. And finally she wants 60 dollars a month because my son has health care under her new husbands plan, but he pays 350.00 dollars a monthe if it is just single coverage or 10 people on the plan. Is this fair that I received a summons to go to court today ? Is she being harsh because of the divorce? What do I do ? I did loose 75% in this divorce because she was a full time student that never worked and I owned a company (which I lost), and a 500,000.00 house my dad and I built.
Sounds to me like she is just greedy and wants more money and will do anything to get it. It has nothing to do with the child, she wants the money for herself. There probably isnt a whole lot she can do about the tax credit since it says in your papers that yall alternate years. And maybe the judge will see that she is just being petty and selfish and not give her what she wants. There is not a whole lot you can do but go to court like you are told to and fight to keep her from getting what she is asking for. And it does sound like she also might be mad at you and just trying to hurt you in any way possible. Just dont let her get to you. She is like a kid, the more she sees it upsets you or annoys you, the more she will try to do it.
Paste your code here!can you get hiv from a pin prick?
Posted by admin on Nov 30, 2009
I went for a rapid HIV test where a lancet is used to draw blood.
The nurse seemed homophobic, and when i said that i had a high risk situation in the past she immediately went and got the test package before finishing the questions. Then started asking me things like "so you just feel you don’t need to use condoms" "safe sex isn’t part of your routine" and things like that, which made me very uneasy.
she produced a sterile lancet, went across the room, opened a cupboard, and came back and administered the test with an alternate lancet.. i know because the one she first brought out was still sitting on the table.
my test was negative and as i was leaving she said "i hope you will learn your lesson from this". of course that could have been in regards to the stress of the actual test.. but it felt like an attack
i began feeling ARS symptoms 3 weeks after the test, and called the clinic to ask someone about what happened.. the nurse claims she never even opened a cupboard in my presence and had everything she needed right beside me.. which i swear to anyone reading is not the truth.
My question is, how long can HIV last on a needle head/how much blood is needed to infect you?
it would have been directly entered into my blood from the finger prick.
i would think i was just being paranoid if the nurse hadn’t denied taking the lancet(finger prick) out of the cupboard.. please any health care professionals offer your input! also what are the odds she would do this on purpose?
also the reason i’m so scared is because it was an anonymous test, and i recieved no tracking number…
Once outside the body, HIV only lives for a few minutes. But needles should NEVER be reused.
The nurse’s behavior was completely unprofessional. Her statements were also unprofessional. Discussion of risk factors, risky behaviors, and risk reduction are very important, and must be done, but I believe she treated you inappropriately. I would report your experience to your local Health Department. (Also, if the test was anonymous, you would HAVE to be given an identification number.) Talk to someone at your local Health Department or Planned Parenthood about being tested appropriately.
Paste your code here!If anti-depressants help people, why have suicides dramatically gone up in the last 20 years?
Posted by admin on Nov 26, 2009
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve seen people dramatically helped by these medicines, including in my direct family.
But you would expect to see a significant drop in suicides which are almost always caused by severe clinical depression.
Maybe it’s once again that people believe that health (and happiness) are to be found in a bottle of pills?
Makes me believe in Alternate Care even more!
Here is a link to the article.
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20081021/us_nm/us_suicide_usa
A HUGE number of people now take anti-depressants – while not are people are you would expect those taking it would reduce suicides overall.
However, maybe it’s just the drug culture that thinks everything in the medicine chest with a Doctors name on it must be OK.
Use of drugs like oxycontin and other strong pain pills are well known for causing depressive spirals, and I think that accounts for the rise.
Thats a good question.
While Antidepresants can be life saving there is no doubt that they are over prescribed.
Even where indicated, anti-depressants alone are probably not enough.
Being multifactorial in thinking, life style choices are also very helpful in helping lift depression also so is the individual themselves.
I have noticed depression seems to have very little to do with circumstances. People who have the most difficult trials in life seem to just get on with it and be as happy as larry when they have a positive mental attitude.
Other people who appear to have everything are desperately unhappy and want to kill themselves. Is the way of thinking a big factor here?
Where can I find up to date, non biased, information about the health care reform, online?
Posted by admin on Nov 19, 2009
The news is useless, and unreliable, so maybe there is an alternate source… Like a website that just shows the votes, and what’s been determined so far?
There are several health care reform bills out there. Congress won’t post them online for us to read them — so you are out of luck. (Apparently, the LAST time they posted a health care bill online, people READ the darn thing and since neither senators nor congressmen had done the same, they looked like fools. ) They don’t want us to know what it’s about. This way they can "tell us" what they want us to know and color it however they want. You can find a "synopsis" of what congress wants you to know easily enough. Unfortunately, I’m more concerned with the things they do NOT want us to know.
I don’t know about you, but I just don’t trust them.
Paste your code here!Another humble note-ish on Economics in its entirety… sort of.?
Posted by admin on Nov 15, 2009
I’m trying to put this in the most efficient way possible. This wasn’t for fun, I’d be writing a poem if I wanted "fun."
It’s long again. I hope it’s worth it, and accurate enough for you naysayers.
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It’s not going too great right now.
America’s economy is fucked, and it was even before the recent crisis. Here’s the problem.
Our gross domestic product (GDP) is screwed.
But wait… that doesn’t make sense, does it? After all, we’re around first to second globally when it comes to GDP, coming in at about thirteen trillion dollars. That’s great, but there’s a problem. We’re also in a massive pool of debt: ten trillion dollars worth. When your national debt comes close to your GDP, something’s fishy.
But how did we enter such a huge debt? We’ve always been in debt. Only the conservative democrat Andrew Jackson managed to significantly reduce it, but that was very short lived when the Panic of 1837 occurred. Since then, it’s dramatically increased for the most part, especially in the past twenty years. Ronald Reagan was a huge part of this, which means, yes nitwits, Reaganomics doesn’t fucking work. The “trickle down” theory only concentrates the wealth on the richest members of America.
The idea was, and still is, that if tax breaks are offered to the rich, they’ll invest in things like charities, factories, etc. Nobody seemed to remember that America is now part of a global economy, so the rich will probably invest more in areas where they can get the highest return/profit, outside of the U.S, which is why the policy has failed on a very large scale. So when McCain says he’s offering tax breaks to the rich because by some miracle that’ll help out small business, he’s just flat out wrong.
Clinton did increase debt, but not by much. Rather, he leveled it out. How? His idea of achieving fiscal responsibility: “Pay as you go.” What this meant was that if taxes were cut, so was spending. Revenue increased extremely, and everything seemed to be going just magnificently.
And then Bush came.
Following the failed concepts of Reaganomics and neo-conservatism, President Bush Jr. managed to increase our debt to GDP ratio up to more than 60%. Of course, the Afghan War (by the way, what happened to that?) and the Iraq War ($10 billion a month while the California-sized country itself has a $79 billion dollar surplus) did contribute. But should we have been there in the first place is the main question. One is yes, the other maybe, probably no… actually, almost definitely no.
So what can we do to fix the economy? When Obama says “change comes from the bottom up,” it’s not just a catchy phrase. It’s an economic plan. By increasing the productivity of workers across the United States, global capital will naturally come to us if we can increase our net import/export value from the GDP. We export more than we import… that’s bad. If we work on more “American based” products, and not rely on China so much for, well, um, everything, that would definitely decrease our debt as of now. It wouldn’t obliterate it, but it would significantly lower it. Reducing energy costs is also another major factor. The idea is to avoid oil in it’s entirety by focusing on alternate energy sources: wind, solar, tide/hydroelectric, etc. Nuclear power is just too risky, and offshore drilling just doesn’t work. It would only have a major effect in 10 years. The argument then becomes if we had used offshore drilling when Bush became president, none of these energy issues would’ve happened. That’s great, but this is now, and there’s no point in waiting another ten years using the product that got us into the crisis in the first place.
However, the main way to increase productivity is through health care, i.e. Universal Health Care (UHC). Whether it is single payer or multi-payer, single probably being the best choice, Americans wouldn’t have to worry nearly as much about the hellhole that is private insurance. Premiums would be almost non-existent or even totally gone. This means employers won’t have to pay as much as before. Jobs would increase because of the new portability of the increase, and so would wages because, again, employers are paying less for health care, so they have more freedom. Businesses would end up prospering just because of UHC. In fact, the National Coalition on Health Care released a report in 2005 showing a single payer system for UHC could even save America $1.1 trillion dollars over 10 years. Our current system using the free market guarantees us that we can never get UHC because the free market makes sure private insurers don’t insure those who really are sick because they’re of such high cost.
So, what’s the conclusion?
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You tell me.
Comment.
"In fact, the National Coalition on Health Care released a report in 2005 showing a single payer system for UHC could even save America $1.1 trillion dollars over 10 years."
Several problems with your essay, this being one of them. You haven’t convinced me why this is Bush’s fault aside from quoting labels used – "Reaganomics" and "trickle down"
Further, what does the UHC have anything to do with increasing economic productivity?
Paste your code here!How are things on alternate reality Earth?
Posted by admin on Nov 10, 2009
How do you think things are going for our brothers on the alternate dimension version of Earth. You know the one where McCain/Palin won instead.
Where do you think they are in terms of the economy, the wars and is there even a health care reform issue there? What do you think?
things are good.
Where can I find up to date, non biased, information about the health care reform, online?
Posted by admin on Nov 6, 2009
The news is useless, and unreliable, so maybe there is an alternate source… Like a website that just shows the votes, and what’s been determined so far?
The Congress decided not to post their bills on line. Even when they come up with one to actually vote on, it will not be posted.
You can watch the hearings about the bills on line on the CS PAN site and get a pretty good idea of what will be in the bills.
Paste your code here!Does anyone agree or disagree with my following opinion of "gays" and "transgendering" of humans?
Posted by admin on Nov 2, 2009
All I have to say, is that I’d rather not take a communal shower with a dog that wants to have sex with me, or a man that wants to have sex with me.
Homosexuality rapes the civil lifestyle that society would like to prevail. There is simply no ability to know for sure who is and who’s not. There are so many increasing numbers of those who used to be man, but now are "women" and vice-versa.
I think homosexuality is the incapability to deal with life as your parents created you. Actually I believe God created you, but even if you don’t and you feel your parents did so with no divine intervention, than , well, that’s why I said parents.
Anyways, seeing that one is incapable of living content with what package they were born with, or whether mutilation of said body and package is what is preferred, either way, it shows a defective mental health picture of which shows me, a physician that one is in need of mental health care and not bodily mutilation, nor destroying what is known as civil "norms", and tearing down "marriage" as it was sanctified by God.
This may not be a popular opinion with the gay crowd, but I present my answer as an alternate to eliminating the judeo-Christian standards upon which this society is based. Get Help, Not Surgery. We are born complete, and even if you dont’ believe in god, believe this. Bodies supposedly evolved to reproduce and survive. By choosing to not be "hetero" you are obviously giving in to what would be considered the weaker tendancies of a species by not procreating. In summation, evolution would eliminate those who are not gay since they are using their minds to further a cause their natural bodies cannot provide.
Dr. D.
please, let’s have a good, thoughtful conversation without insulting one another….
well said, sound statements, yes, i agree!
PLEEASE SUMMARIze…..15 points..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Posted by admin on Oct 30, 2009
WASHINGTON — President Barack Obama has declared 2009 H1N1 swine flu a national emergency, the White House said on Saturday.
The declaration will make it easier for U.S. medical facilities to handle a surge in flu patients by allowing the waiver of some requirements of Medicare, Medicaid and other federal health insurance programs as needed, the White House said in a statement.
The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention said on Friday that H1N1 swine flu has become widespread in 46 of the 50 U.S. states, a level comparable to the peak of ordinary flu seasons but far earlier and with more waves of infection expected.
Obama signed the statement on Friday night.
The White House statement said the declaration was intended to prepare the country in case of "a rapid increase in illness that may overburden health care resources." It was similar to disaster declarations issued before hurricanes hit coastal areas.
"It’s important to note that this is a proactive measure — not a response to a new development," an administration official said.
"H1N1 is moving rapidly, as expected. By the time regions or healthcare systems recognize they are becoming overburdened, they need to implement disaster plans quickly," he said.
Seasonal flu normally peaks sometime between late November and early March.
Swine flu has hit young adults and children the hardest, while seasonal flu normally is more dangerous for people over age 65.
H1N1 has killed more than 1,000 Americans and put more than 20,000 in the hospital in the United States since it emerged earlier this year, the CDC said. But health officials are quick to note that the actual number of cases cannot be measured.
H1N1 swine flu had been declared a public health emergency earlier in the year.
The new declaration clears the way for waivers of federal requirements that, for example, could prevent hospitals from establishing off-site, alternate care facilities that could help them deal with emergency department demands, the White House said.
its needs to be the lengths of about 2 paragraphs
the best answerer..will have to answer another fake question, andi will automatically give them best answer for that too!
Best answer gets 10 points. You cannot alter that, and if you don’t award them, the voters do.
As for summarizing your piece – cut out anything that’s duplicated, cut out fluff, just leave bare facts, see how long it is then.
Paste your code here!
