Child custody issues at 18.?
Posted by admin on Feb 15, 2010
I gave birth to a premature baby boy almost 4 months ago. I wasen’t sure about the paternity between an ex boy friend, and another guy. For her own benifit, one of the potential fathers mother did an "online paternity test" which isn’t leagally binding. Since she got the results back and her son was found to be the father, possibly, she is taking over everything. we have had issues in the past because SHE is extremly pushy & bullys me. I finally stuck up for me and my son and told her that for his health she needs to lay off a little and not take him over night every weekend until the court orders it (which is what i was advised to do by my social worker). I just received a summons today from her son ( but she made him do it) & they are going for part time physical and legal custody, share in transportation, change his name to his last name, visitation every other weekend friday until sunday & every wed through thursday, alternate parent time on holidays,& to be granted care if i am gone for longer than 3 hours. I am still in high school so that would be every day except weekends plus the weekends he would get him. should i worry, or do you think he’s going to get even half of these reqhests? also, im a single mother & can’t afford an expensive attourney like his mom has for him.
also, i asked them to not take him to church because it’s RSV season and his doc. advised not being around a lot of people, but she took him anyway without me knowing. she also lied and wrote that i agreed to change his last name, which i never did, and she made arrangments to baptise him at her church without my knowledge, and stated that i "will not allow this to happen."
With infants, most non-custodial parents do not even get overnight visitation much less the entire weekend. The judge will see through the grandmother, her personality will come out in court. He will also realize the grandmother will be raising your child and not so much the father. Judges like to give custody to mothers and fathers, not grandparents, generally. My personal belief, infants do not belong at church, period. He will just be with babysitters while they are in service, who are often random churchgoers, without experience dealing with a baby who may be more at risk for health problems. This was pretty selfish of her, probably just wanted to show him off to her friends, disregarding his health. Hire a lawyer you can afford.
i would get a lawyer, just in case. OMG.. if she forged your name on something, you can use that against her!! if you are not ok with changing his name IT CAN NOT BE CHANGED!! you fight girl! thats your baby. doesn’t sound like the babies father wants him anyway..
and with sick babies like yours, i doubt they will get much of anything.
and before that bitch of a woman can get any where, she and her son WILL BE COURT ORDERED to pay for a DNA test!! a real one. .not an online one that you can get any result you want
best of luck.
and are you nursing? because if you’re nurisng that will help you keep him more.
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With infants, most non-custodial parents do not even get overnight visitation much less the entire weekend. The judge will see through the grandmother, her personality will come out in court. He will also realize the grandmother will be raising your child and not so much the father. Judges like to give custody to mothers and fathers, not grandparents, generally. My personal belief, infants do not belong at church, period. He will just be with babysitters while they are in service, who are often random churchgoers, without experience dealing with a baby who may be more at risk for health problems. This was pretty selfish of her, probably just wanted to show him off to her friends, disregarding his health. Hire a lawyer you can afford.
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Oh honey you have a great deal on your hands. I know that it may be hard for you to let your child go but the child does have a right to know its father. You have to think of your child first and love him more that you hate his grandma. That being said I think that you really have to find a good lawyer try to see if you can get one to work with you on payments or free. I know that its a stretch but you can sometimes find lawyers to do it for free everyone once in a while(its a tax write off for them). Unless they are trying doing harm to the baby, I don’t see why they would not let him have joint custody. The more than 3 hours thing sounds like a bunch of bs and you really have to look into that. I will pray for you and good luck!
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Unfortunately there is nothing you can do but get a good lawyer. If he is found to be the father he is entitled to all that. They are allowed to have your child baptized without your permission and technically you can not put restriction on the father. Due to him being preemie he should be getting sinages which would protect him against RSV.
As much as her forging your signature you may be able to use that against them. But they can petition to change the baby’s last name and if they have are proven to be related to them they will change it legally. If he is the father he has rights to have the baby 50% of the time. He has to go to court and petition it and if he is shown to be responsible, working and not a threat to the baby he will get joint custody. They can request to have the baby if you are more than 3 hrs away and the court will grant it on the basis that a child is better off with family than with a sitter.
Whether the mother is the drive behind him or not wont hold in a court because he is actually petitioning it. The only way to stall is stating that you are unsure of paternity and having a paternity done through the court. But unfortunatly if he is found to be the father he is entitled to all that.
I had a child out of wedlock and armed with this knowledge of paternal rights I stayed on their good side. I allowed my child to go there every weekend friday-sunday on ocassion she would not go (family get togethers or vacations) We would split holidays generally He would get days 9-6pm and I would get 6pm and beyond. Father’s get alot more rights now a days than what they used to get. Unfortunatly My daughters father is not envolved but his parents take her beacuse I know they would be capable of "advicing" him My daughter is now 8 and verbally can say if she chooses to go or not and they respect that.
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